The Importance Of Developing Your Emotional Intelligence

Source: Everup, Shai Tamary

Improving your EI will not only help you be more successful on the job, it will also make you a better friend and lover.

No matter how high someone’s IQ might be, if they don’t possess the emotional qualities necessary for managing stress, working in teams, and adjusting to change, they will not be able to reach their full potential.

According to the World Economic Forum’s Future of Jobs Report, Emotional Intelligence (EI) will be one of the top 10 job skills in 2020. Even grad schools have started requiring prospective students to provide an EI letter of recommendation in their admissions application!

In order to improve your EI, you must first understand what it means.

EI is one’s ability to identify and manage their own emotions, respond to the emotions of others, navigate social complexities, and apply emotions to achieve positive results.

The term “Emotional Intelligence” was popularized by Daniel Goleman in his 1995 book Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ.

More recently, EI has become the hottest buzzword in business leadership.

The 5 Pillars of EI

1. Self-awareness

2. Self-regulation



5.Social skills

1. Self-awareness
This includes the ability to understand your own strengths and weaknesses, respond to constructive criticism, and accurately judge how your actions affect others.

2. Self-regulation
Leaders who regulate themselves effectively are able to compose themselves in times of stress, respond to situations with control rather than emotional outbursts, and take accountability for their actions. They tend to have better-developed coping mechanisms and healthy support systems.

3. Motivation
Self-motivated leaders set ambitious goals, work consistently toward these goals, and remain optimistic in the face of obstacles.

4. Empathy
Being able to connect with others and develop strong relationships is key to managing a successful team or organization. Empathetic leaders use their sensitivity to build trust and cohesiveness among team members.

5. Social Skills
Leaders with high social skills are good at communicating their ideas, resolving conflicts, giving praise to those who have earned it, and motivating others towards a goal. They work well on a team, avoid power struggles, and show respect to those around them.

The more you are able to master each of these areas, the higher your EI will be.